I was looking back this morning at some of my recent posts and I began to sense a theme -- complaint. Ever since we moved, and possibly even right before, I've been doing a lot of complaining.
Did you know that there's an anti-complaining movement afoot in America? Well, there is. I first heard of it in an article in Newsweek. I tried to find that article but I think we tossed the magazine before the move. So I consulted the almighty Google and found this substitute article. If you haven't heard about this, take a moment and go read the article. From this article I found out that the Rev. Bowen has been on Oprah and The Today Show, so this is probably not news to most of you, but I'm fascinated nonetheless.
I'm kind of sick of complaining. And I'm tempted to take Dr. Bowen's challenge -- to see if I can stop complaining. I don't think it will make my life better in the sense that bad things, or things that formerly made me complain, will actually stop happening. But I do believe what Abraham Lincoln said, that "People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be." It can work for me. I've done it before -- last week even!
And while I don't think it's healthy to suppress anger or feelings of unhappiness, I don't think that's what Rev. Bowen is suggesting. I think a lot of us complain out of habit. Or in an attempt to be funny. I know I do. Sometimes it gives me a topic of conversation when I don't have anything else to say. I've even formed friendships out of mutual complaining.
Recently a co-worker received a brochure about an administrative professional's workshop presented at our university. One of the topics to be covered was "Who could I be without all that attitude?" And while I thought that was one of the best titles I've ever heard, later I started to realize that it has the slight ring of truth. Who could I be without all this negativity?
I could be a better wife.
I could be a better mother.
I could be a better daughter.
I could be a better employee.
I'm not promising that I'll never complain again. But I'm going to try to curb my impulse. That's all I can do, right? Try? Wish me luck.
5 years ago