So, yeah, we're moving. On the one hand it's gonna be a big old hassle, but on the other hand I think it's the right decision for us.
Without going into a lot of details, the last couple of years have been hard on us financially. But now I feel like we're making a step in the right direction. Where we are is not how I pictured our lives at this point, but hey, you gotta roll with the punches. The best part about our current decision is that we're going to be saving a significant amount of money every month. And in a couple of years, after the kids are out of daycare, we're going to build our dream house.
But there are some other reasons I'm glad we're moving as well. We currently live in a very affluent county, the county that has been deemed as "THE" county to live in. The county with the "best" schools. But really? This is the "white flight" county. Everyone has fled the neighboring county, which has a high number of housing projects and a lot of poverty. The schools here are good, but as far as test scores, etc. go, I'm not sure they're any better than some of the good schools in the poor county. But here they're almost 100% white. Which everybody assumes makes them "safe."
But you know what? This world isn't all white. And I was never sure that I wanted my kids to go to a school with so little diversity. In Bubba's life so far he has been good friends with some African-American kids, some Hispanic kids, a Filipino kid, a French kid, a Brazilian kid and an Indian kid. And I want that to continue. Though the county to which we are moving is not quite as diverse as I would like, it is certainly more diverse than the county in which we currently live.
And did I mention that this county is affluent? It is not unusual for homes here to sell for upwards of $400,000. I know that doesn't sound like much to some of you big city folk, but around these parts? That's a lot of money. Especially since the University is the largest local employer and they are notorious for underpaying their employees. Believe me, I know.
And if we're going to be honest here -- and we are -- I often find myself feeling "less than" when talking to people that we've met since we moved here. It's sort of like being the poor relation, you know? Stay at home moms abound. Don't get me wrong, I'm not knocking stay at home moms -- I used to be one of them. But the clothes these moms wear cost more than anything in my closet. They always look so put together and their children are always in neatest, crispest, CLEANEST clothes. And their houses are ginormous!!
And I don't like feeling less than. I know this is strictly MY problem -- these are MY issues. I'd be lying if I said I don't like STUFF -- nice stuff, unfortunately -- and perhaps it's just a bit of sour grapes on my part that I feel I don't fit in here. But I also feel that there's a level of superficiality that I have NO INTEREST in trying compete with.
So I'm glad we're moving to a place where we'll -- I mean I'll -- be more comfortable.
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