Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Praise The Lord

Okay, I know about 5 days ago I said come back tomorrow and I'd give you my list of of ways to improve the MRI experience, but clearly I was lying. I will get around to it. I have definite ideas about a multitude of ways the experience can be improved, trust me.

BUT, something has happened that has pre-empted that post. Something miraculous. Something wonderful.

I no longer have to put Punkin to bed every night. Can you believe it? Isn't that amazing?

Seriously though, for almost three years I have put Punkin to bed every single night, except for the rare occasions when I wasn't home at bedtime. And believe me, it was getting OLD. Of course, the blame for this rests mostly on my shoulders, much as it did when Bubba was younger and I was putting him to bed every night.

Here's the thing -- I'm a control freak. Some of you may be shocked. Some of you might not be. When the kids were small, I was convinced that I was the only one who could put the kids to bed "right" -- whatever that means. I was convinced that Mr. Daddy would do something "wrong" and the kids wouldn't fall asleep. He wouldn't know the routine. He wouldn't say the right things. So I did it.

Once Punkin was born Mr. Daddy began helping with Bubba. I had to turn loose of the reigns a little -- I had no choice. But only on Bubba. I was still in charge of Punkin. So we started taking turns, which was great. Only that meant that on some nights I was putting TWO kids to bed, while at most Mr. Daddy only had one and some nights he had NONE.

Which was fine, for the most part. Occasionally I felt a little bitter about it, but unless I was really tired it didn't bother me too much. Until recently. Punkin has learned how to push every single button I have and even some I didn't know I had. She has implemented numerous stalling tactics and when I have attempted to put a stop to them, she flings herself into a tantrum.

A screaming, crying, yelling bedtime is not how I want to end her day. Finally, two nights ago I reached my wits end. I stormed out of her room and found Mr. Daddy. "Please. Please. Just for a couple of nights could you please put her to bed for me? I CANNOT take this anymore. I need a break." He agreed and he went in to calm her down. She is usually a complete angel for her father and a little devil for me and if any of you have any thoughts on why this might be, I would LOVE to hear them.

Yesterday on the way home, Mr. Daddy said he had a new plan for bedtimes. We would each take turns putting one of the kids to bed. One night I'd do Punkin and he'd do Bubba. The next night we'd swap and so on an so forth.

I could have wept with joy. I'm hoping that a break from me will help break Punkin of some of her bad habits. We'll see. But this is all I ever wanted in the first place. Parity.


calicobebop said...

Hooray! Sounds like a great plan to me. I hope the bed-times get easier, nothing is worse than a crying cling-fest at the end of the day. Good luck!

Fannie Mae said...

I have similar control issues. Hope this works out for ALL of you!

AndreAnna said...

I had control issues too until I realized it was either let go a bit, or lose my ever-loving mind.

Thankfully, as of right now, I have a kid who puts herself to bed. She loves it. Weird, but wonderful!

Sass E-mum said...

So far Peaches is easy peasy to get to bed. But I recognise the control freakery. I can't imagine that Recaro could handle it day after day.

ImpostorMom said...

I'm glad to see it's working out and after our conversation yesterday guess what I did? My husband put Boog down last night as well. Look at all that progress being made! :)

Burgh Baby's Mom said...

I JUST was freed of that burden as well. In our case it was that Mr. Husband wasn't even willing to try, but it turns out he does just fine. That first night that I was free to get things done while he tucked in the Toddler I wanted to run around the block naked and screaming hallelujah. I didn't, but I wanted to. Woohoo!

Anglophile Football Fanatic said...

Oh, that is wonderful news. I finally said enough about a year ago, but I was right there with you. And, I totally get the parity.

All Adither said...

We swap back and forth like that too. I think Punkin is so frightful with you because you're her safety net, the number one person she feels safe with. That doesn't make it any easier for you, but I think it is healthy.

Hang in! I totally know where you're coming from!

Esme said...

You just described nights in our house perfectly. Except I almost always put both Four and Five to bed. Sometimes, The Mr. will put Five to bed, but if I'm home, the kids start blaring the "Mama! Mama!" siren.... and it's my fault for not insisting on getting help earlier!

Colleen said...

whew! thank goodness for a break!

I'm still trying to work Justin into putting Cooper down for me one night a week and I put Gavin to bed...but well, he DOES do it wrong sometimes. He forgets Coop's silky blanket, or doesn't rock with him to make sure Coop is settled down a bit...and wonders why the kid screams bloody murder.

Jonny's Mommy said...

I hope this works out for you! I know how it is as I put Jonathan to bed and tonight was a really bad night where I am here at midnight because he refused to go to bed and literally just collapsed about 15 minutes ago. I'm going to go join him now.