tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7215479305770760888.post5529400470097644290..comments2023-10-12T08:53:44.870-04:00Comments on Madame Queen: LostMadame Queenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05879021662076403965noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7215479305770760888.post-63295644351159795482011-08-10T13:33:31.480-04:002011-08-10T13:33:31.480-04:00We should chat (not in the comments)! Isaac is ge...We should chat (not in the comments)! Isaac is getting more difficult. My patience is thinning and I hate that everything is a fight.Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05935189889929041809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7215479305770760888.post-49835878518163632642011-08-10T11:39:49.272-04:002011-08-10T11:39:49.272-04:00I like Mir's advice, layout the rules in advan...I like Mir's advice, layout the rules in advance and get Mr. Daddy to back you up. And on days he takes the lead, you back him up.<br /><br />Good luck!xxxxxxxxxxxxxxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06632212791878686984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7215479305770760888.post-29539746016418234172011-08-10T09:34:27.153-04:002011-08-10T09:34:27.153-04:00I wish I could reach through this computer and giv...I wish I could reach through this computer and give you a hug (for me as much as for you!).<br /><br />I am not exaggerating when I tell you, I could have written EVERY. SINGLE. WORD of this post. Including your very specific examples.<br /><br />I never even thought of ADD/ADHD. I just think it's my Bear's personality - to be stubborn, to be controlling and to NOT want to do un-fun things.<br /><br />I haven't found the "switch" to flip on to motivate him, so I can't help you there. I do give in an awful lot (it seems it's rarely worth the fight) and that's probably why he feels EVERYTHING is negotiable.<br /><br />I'm sorry I have no advice, but please keep us posted of where you're going from here. I could use the help, too!Robynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06669859538951068032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7215479305770760888.post-42126498329848956232011-08-10T08:54:02.436-04:002011-08-10T08:54:02.436-04:00Yes, it's all of those things. You're on a...Yes, it's all of those things. You're on a learning curve, here. You can't beat yourself up for not knowing all the answers already, lady.<br /><br />I would do everything you're already doing, with the exception that I'd start working on that automatic push-back right away with consequences. Like, when she gets home from school, and things are calm, I'd say, "Punkin, tonight when I tell you it's time for a bath, if you argue about it, there will be no TV and no story. Do you understand? Anything other than 'yes ma'am' means you'll be going straight to bed. Baths are not negotiable." See what happens. I predict a huge hairy meltdown the first night, but she'll catch on. And of course praise her up and down any time she complies at the first request. Some of this stuff she can't help, but the oppositional behavior can be reshaped, I bet. <br /><br />I'd probably also cut out TV during the week entirely, because I'm mean like that. It's just an argument I'm not willing to have, so it's something we adopted a long time ago. During school there's no TV except on weekends.<br /><br />I think you're very patient and I know this stuff is super frustrating. Don't be afraid to give yourself a time out to cool down. Tagteam with Dad so you two can keep a cool front. It gets easier, I swear. Have faith. :)Mirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16216722076213205019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7215479305770760888.post-72281303830558110262011-08-10T08:46:08.461-04:002011-08-10T08:46:08.461-04:00Oh honey - you are not lost. Your name is mommy an...Oh honey - you are not lost. Your name is mommy and that name is so exhausting. Gonna be ok. <br /><br />Love - Positive thoughts - Prayers.maggiegracecreateshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12475293299150321997noreply@blogger.com